“I’ve gone through life believing in the strength and competence of others; never in my own. Now, dazzled, I discover that my capacities are real. It’s like finding a fortune in the lining of an old coat.” – Joan Mills
We pick up a lot of stories from our families in childhood, and most of them are wrong.
Some are wrong because we misunderstood them. After all, we were just little kids and it’s easy to misunderstand.
Some are wrong because our parents and others were trying to protect us. When we got excited about some big dream, they threw cold water on it, in the mistaken belief that they were keeping us from being hurt.
And some were wrong because our family stories were wrong and our parents believed them. They passed the limitations and negativity on to us, thinking they were teaching us how the world really worked.
We’re like Harry Potter, living under the stairs, dominated by people who don’t understand us, limited and hopeless.
But that can change, as our quote says. Maybe, like Harry Potter, we have a Hagrid that shows up and announces, “You’re a wizard, Harry!”
Or maybe we discover that our capabilities are real on our own. In either case, our life can change for the better.
Suppose it was possible for you to be or do whatever you wanted? Not easy, but possible.
Can you find that “fortune in the lining of an old coat”? Can you know that what’s possible for others is possible for you?
Because it is.