I came across this profound quote through Nightingale-Conant and was taken aback with the wisdom and the insight and the lesson it imparted. The meaning of life, the meaning of a family and the meaning of marriage and the meaning of love is all there in this brilliant quote. I read this quote several times and the more I read it the more it implored me to understand how crucial is the role of parents in this world, in this society and in thefamily.
We get married and we get beautiful children and we strive to give them the best possible education and existence. We try our utmost to instil in them family and spiritual values and we pray to the Almighty for their success and happiness. All the while, I felt that once the children’s education is over and once they settle down in life with their partners then our responsibilities as parents ceases. However, this should never be the case because they are a part and parcel of our life till we breathe our last. I realized this when my daughter got married and settled into a blissful family life and when my son completed his Engineering Degree and started working for a reputed Multinational Company as a Software Engineer. It dawned on me that the responsibility of a parent can never ever be over and we need to persevere till the end to ensure that they follow the path of goodness and eventually make a difference to their lives and the lives of others for the better.
Yes, at times, there will be differences or probably misunderstanding that could create a barrier between the parents and their children. However, it is primarily the responsibility of a parent to look beyond the hurt and disappointments and keep loving their children and in their own subtle and special way keep on educating them through kindness and understanding. This could be sometimes very difficult as anger and pride and stubbornness can drastically come in between and destroy smooth relationships but then there lies the experience and the skill of a parent to control their anger and hurt and take their love for the good of the children to a level that overcomes all these negative impulses.
It’s always a challenge dealing with grownup children as they would have their independent thinking and their own life style. And within the limits of not being too interfering or not being too inquisitive, a parent can continue moulding and educating their children towards the right path where there is fear of the Almighty and where love and respect will always be the foremost initiatives within a family setup.
The above quote is indeed an eye opener for all of us and it reinforces as I said earlier that a parent’s duty towards the upbringing of their children can never be over until their last breath,