We all make assumptions.. They’re usually wrong and they too often get us into trouble.
Years ago, a young American at a banquet found himself seated next to the eminent Wellington Koo, a Chinese diplomat. Completely at a loss as to what to say to someone from such a different culture, this young man ventured, “Likee soupee?”
Mr. Koo smiled and nodded. Later when called upon to speak, Wellington Koo delivered an eloquent talk in exquisite English, sat down while the applause was still resounding, turned to the young man and smiled, “Likee speechee?
His assumption about Mr. Koo was simply not true. Which is not unlike a husband who assumes he knows his wife’s opinion on a matter, only to find out she thinks differently. Or a wife who assumes that her husband’s silence means he is angry or disinterested, only to learn that he is worried about something else. Or an employee who assumes he knows that his boss is upset with him because she didn’t praise his performance on a project, when she was merely preoccupied with another matter.
You’ve heard it said, “Never assume anything; it makes an ASS out of U and ME.” But I especially like the advice of Eniong Hilario: “Things are better said than assumed.”
Extract from a post by Steve Goodier
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